Portraits of Ex-Lovers

An individual’s perception of sexual intimacy relies heavily on their quondam lovers and the complex, emotional experiences entrapped within the memories of the intimate relationship. Over the course of four months, to more fully understand my own discontented perceptions of sexual intimacy, I contacted each of my ex-lovers, asking for their consent to be photographed.

For those who agreed, our interactions ranged from overwhelmingly awkward to heartwarmingly familiar. Each ex-lover was supportive and enthusiastic, far more so than I could have ever hoped. Those who did not agree to the proposition typically did so out of concern for their current lovers, but even in rejection, they still remained positive and encouraging. Some, of course, never acknowledge receipt of my requests.

It was impossible for me to remain objective throughout this exploration, and each composition, each image is a reflection of my experience in its own intricate way. I can only begin to attempt to fathom the full effect of the relationships’ ramifications on my internal psyche. I photographed each of them in their bedrooms, their most personal and intimate spaces. Through this project, I accessed a network of caring individuals who will forever bear the title of ‘ex-lover’ and whatever emotional connotations that will bring.